Is Caregiving Really an HR Concern?

Many organizations still treat caregiving as something separate from the workplace, a personal issue that employees are expected to manage quietly and independently. The assumption is that if someone is struggling with responsibility at home, they should use their benefits, adjust their schedule, or simply “figure it out.” But that way of thinking no longer reflects the realities of today’s workforce.

Caregiving is not a side issue. It is a structural pressure affecting performance, engagement, wellbeing, culture, and retention. When organizations fail to acknowledge it, the impact shows up in hidden ways. Employees stop speaking up, morale drops, and trust erodes. Leaders may not connect these outcomes to caregiving, but the connection is there. Addressing caregiving is not just compassionate—it is strategic.

The Myth That Caregiving Is “Personal”

One of the biggest barriers to supporting caregivers is the widespread belief that caregiving is a personal matter. Leaders sometimes say that employees should rely on their PTO or that “exceptions” cannot be made for everyone. They worry that support in one area will lead to requests in others, and they fear losing consistency.

But this reasoning misses a key point. Organizations already structure work around real-life circumstances every day. When someone needs disability accommodations, support is built in. When an employee returns from parental leave, expectations shift temporarily. When someone experiences a loss, teams make space for grief. Caregiving is no different.

The real issue is that caregiving often remains invisible until it becomes a crisis. When employees are caring for a parent undergoing cancer treatment, or managing multiple therapies for a child, they often hesitate to ask for support. They worry about being seen as unreliable or falling behind. That silence keeps leaders and HR teams unaware of what is actually happening inside their workforce.

The Hidden Impact of Silence

Caregiving is already in your organization, whether it is acknowledged or not. It shows up in subtle ways long before anyone speaks up. The sudden drop in performance from a previously strong employee. The vague “work-life balance” comments in exit interviews. The mid-level manager who turns down a promotion but doesn’t explain why. The absenteeism patterns that no one connects to caregiving stress.

Research shows that most caregivers do not disclose their caregiving status at work. Silence, however, is not neutral. It can become corrosive. Employees who feel unsafe revealing their caregiving responsibilities often overextend themselves to prove reliability. They push through exhaustion, hide their stress, and avoid raising concerns until burnout becomes inevitable.

These patterns are not individual weaknesses. They are cultural signals. When organizations treat caregiving as irrelevant or inappropriate to discuss, employees learn that their lived experience is unwelcome. That perception shapes culture more powerfully than any value statement or company slogan.

Why HR Is Central—But Not Alone

So is caregiving an HR concern? The answer is yes and no.

Yes, because HR owns the policies and structures that either support caregivers or leave them invisible. HR is responsible for compliance, monitoring workforce trends, and shaping the cultural norms that influence whether employees feel safe being honest. The signals HR sends—through communication, training, and benefits—shape the environment in which caregiving exists.

But caregiving is not only an HR concern. HR cannot carry this work alone. Leaders across the organization must adopt shared language, offer consistent support, and integrate caregiving awareness into performance, workload planning, and team culture.

Caregiving support is not a benefits issue. It is a leadership issue. It is a strategy issue. It is a risk management issue. It is a culture issue. And HR is where all these areas intersect.

Where Caregiving Support Impacts the Organization

The effects of caregiving support—or the lack of it—reach across the entire organization. Some of the most significant impacts include culture, compliance, and retention.

1. Culture

When caregivers feel invisible or unsupported, they withdraw emotionally. They may stay silent about their needs, avoid opportunities, and work twice as hard to avoid being judged. This creates a culture where people hide their struggles, and the silence spreads. Even employees who are not caregivers see this dynamic and internalize the message. It shapes culture far more than formal policies.

2. Compliance

Caregiving-related legal concerns are increasing. Improper handling of leave, inconsistent accommodations, or discriminatory treatment can create legal risk. HR leaders have a responsibility to ensure that caregivers are treated fairly and in alignment with the law.

Proactive caregiving support helps prevent misunderstandings, protects the organization, and supports employees in navigating complex situations.

3. Retention

Employees who do not feel safe disclosing caregiving responsibilities may quietly disengage or leave the organization altogether. They often give vague or neutral explanations for their exit, but the underlying issue is unspoken strain.

Replacing an employee is costly, especially when the departure results from burnout or perceived lack of support. Retaining experienced caregivers through thoughtful policy, communication, and culture is far more efficient and stabilizing.

What HR Can Do This Quarter

If you are an HR leader, there are four practical steps you can take in the next quarter to strengthen support for caregivers and reduce risk across your organization.

1. Audit Benefits for Real-Life Caregiving Needs

Go beyond compliance and assess whether your benefits truly address what caregivers encounter. Look at backup care options, flexible leave policies, or temporary role adjustments. Evaluate whether your current offerings meet the real needs that employees are navigating.

2. Train Managers, Not Just Tell Them to “Be Understanding”

Managers often want to help but lack practical tools. They need scripts, scenarios, and structure to feel confident navigating sensitive caregiving conversations. Without training, managers may default to avoidance or inconsistency, both of which create risk.

3. Gather Real Data

Include caregiving questions in engagement surveys. Offer optional, anonymous ways for employees to share their caregiving status or needs. This data sheds light on what is already present but unspoken.

4. Communicate Proactively

Do not wait for employees to raise their hands. Normalize supportive conversations by communicating early, often, and clearly. Share resources, clarify policies, and reinforce that caregiving is a part of life—not a liability.

The Impact of Doing This Work Well

If you are in HR, you carry the quiet work. You bridge the gap between intention and impact. You help move organizations from reactive to proactive, shaping an environment where people feel safe asking for support before they reach a breaking point.

Each time you update a policy, train a manager, or create space for an honest conversation, you are contributing to a healthier and more sustainable workplace. You are helping build a culture where people do not have to choose between their career and their caregiving responsibilities.

This work matters. It protects the organization, strengthens the workforce, and supports the whole person. It is leadership in action.

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Together, let’s build a workplace that CARES!

• Dr. Anna Thomas

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*Bio: Dr. Anna Thomas is a board-certified physician, TEDx speaker, workplace wellbeing strategist, and leadership coach who helps organizations strengthen culture, resilience, and performance in a changing world. As founder of LifeCare LeadHership and Workplaces That Care, she blends clinical insight with leadership development to teach practical tools for building supportive, care-ready workplaces. Her keynotes and trainings address workforce wellbeing, retention, burnout prevention, caregiving in the workplace, women’s leadership, and navigating life and work transitions. As the creator of the CARE Framework, she equips leaders to support the whole person so teams stay engaged, healthy, and committed. Audiences appreciate her grounded delivery, relatable stories, and clear, actionable strategies. Learn more or book Dr. Thomas at www.WorkplaceWellbeingSpeaker.com

The views and opinions expressed in this post are solely those of Dr. Thomas and do not reflect the views of any past or present employer. This content is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or legal advice.*